^^^ But you would agree that disproportionately harming a minority group for thinking or feeling differently is wrong, correct? You are asexual and not on the gender binary. Consider what your situation might be in somewhere like Russia right now. Now consider what other people must be going through.
Fairness and kindness are paramount, are they not?
Yes. I just wish that people didn't care about sexuality and gender; that it was as little of an issue as hair color or whether the number of hairs on your head is divisible by seventeen or foot length. I wish people would just stop talking about it.
I guess what I'm trying to say is that I wish that it wasn't an issue and that it didn't have any effect on how people treated one another. It shouldn't be in your mind when you talk with someone; it shouldn't be a consideration at all; and maybe banning people from bringing up the issue is the only way for prejudices to die and people to stop caring about what sexuality anyone other than you and your beloved(s) have.
All people should be treated fairly and with kindness.
I think that the best way for that to happen is for people to stop acting as if their differences were so important.
The problem is that the way that majorities or pluralities tend to treat minorities tends to lead, as Anonus said, to erasure of those that do not conform. Furthermore, simply forbidding an expression only underlines its importance by alienating individuals. If anything, absolute freedom and tolerance, insofar as safe and sane behaviours are concerned, seems like the only way to diminish such overemphasis. If everything is OK, then... everything is OK. It ceases to be an issue.
P.S. Al, I think that people would be far less uncomfortable with your behaviour if you actually stated your opinions at length with the proper context and explanation instead of responding with awkward and abrasive one-liners. You are clearly capable of forming reasonably sophisticated positions on difficult subjects, but you refuse to actually state them until it is too late and you have already upset people, seemingly out of some misplaced need to flagellate yourself over the belief that your opinions are terrible by ensuring that they sound as terrible as possible. I really wish that you wouldn't do that.
I've learned to tolerate drama...except on the boat
Aliroz, stop flagellating yourself over this. If you're going to take a break, then do that. Stop cluttering up this thread, or else we'll make you take a break.
Aliroz, stop flagellating yourself over this. If you're going to take a break, then do that. Stop cluttering up this thread, or else we'll make you take a break.
Alright, I hereby make an oath to stop self-flagellating; self-depreciating, saying-my-opinions-in-a-way-that-makes-them-sound-terrible, calling-myself-a-terrible-person, and all such things.
I do, however, believe that that last "Well there's your problem" was actually pretty funny.
You are the end result of a “would you push the button” prompt where the prompt was “you have unlimited godlike powers but you appear to all and sundry to be an impetuous child” – Zero, 2022
My weekend has consisted of little more than sleeping, thus far. :P
More people have said that and been killed than there are thorium decay products.
btw trans peeps get thrown out of bars and mocked by news reporters and forced to publish their name changes in the news and literally can never ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever get a job. Crush the oppressor. >:o
You are the end result of a “would you push the button” prompt where the prompt was “you have unlimited godlike powers but you appear to all and sundry to be an impetuous child” – Zero, 2022
After much deliberation, I wish I was a girl. Discuss.
Wish you were, or think that you should be? I wonder if there is an important difference; perhaps there is? Is gender transition a thing that you want to do? It is difficult but if you are part of the trans* club then I welcome you. :o We do indeed have cookies. :D I think like half of this forum has discomfort with their gender and several of us have decided/realized/whatever that we are trans.
You are the end result of a “would you push the button” prompt where the prompt was “you have unlimited godlike powers but you appear to all and sundry to be an impetuous child” – Zero, 2022
Wish you were, or think that you should be? I wonder if there is an important difference; perhaps there is?
This was something I struggled with for a long time. I was never sure whether I "counted" as trans because I couldn't tell if I genuinely thought I should have been a girl or if I just wanted to be a girl because I'd failed at being a boy.
Eventually I snapped out of this when I realized I genuinely find the prospect of living as a man for the rest of my life to be cripplingly depressing, and figured that's a good enough reason to go ahead with transitioning either way.
You know Centy, it just occurred to me that somewhere along the way I had just entirely begun to consider you female. Just something that I noticed. No idea exactly when that happened or anything, but it did.
You are the end result of a “would you push the button” prompt where the prompt was “you have unlimited godlike powers but you appear to all and sundry to be an impetuous child” – Zero, 2022
Same deal as Matt. I went through a period of dissonant thinking because I knew you when you referred to yourself as male, but at some point I simply ceased thinking of you as male in any respect without any real effort. You are simply female to me.
"Eventually I snapped out of this when I realized I genuinely find the prospect of living as a man for the rest of my life to be cripplingly depressing"
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I don't think I'll ever stop fantasizing about a magic-fairy-pixie showing up and replacing my attachments.
Also, I see "trans" as being a sort of gender in itself. Not particularly sure why, but I can't call myself male *or* female - I'm "other".
"Wish you were, or think that you should be? I wonder if there is an important difference; perhaps there is? Is gender transition a thing that you want to do?"
If transitioning could be more than just cosmetic - a 100% change - I would take the opportunity immediately. Otherwise, I'm kind of on the fence about it. Until then, I'll have to make do with being every bit as camp as I've always been, and wear bracelets under my sleeve when I can get away with it.
You are the end result of a “would you push the button” prompt where the prompt was “you have unlimited godlike powers but you appear to all and sundry to be an impetuous child” – Zero, 2022
^^ Aww, that makes me feel good, somehow. Funny how viewing me as female seems to have come so naturally to my friends...
^ And now the question of the hour: what pronouns would you like us to use?
More people have said that and been killed than there are thorium decay products.
Transitioning to female is a *little* more than cosmetic, since estrogen will change your muscle tone and fat distribution and breast tissue and skin texture and body hair and penis/testicle size, yes, but it will also affect your brain chemistry and influence your emotions and it will turn your sex drive female, which is a little different but won't change your orientation of course. Basically it will make you "female-brained" as well as telling your body that you are female now. The sex change itself is largely cosmetic from appearance, yes (unfortunately you don't get to have a female reproductive system and will also become sterile), but you will get to have a functioning vagina and clitoris that is probably indistinguishable from a natal one.
I'm in a stable relationship with my girlfriend now. She treats me well. She is everything I imagined and wished she was. She'll never stab me in the back or toss me aside. She's loyal and reliable.
Yet the fact that she doesn't hit me like my old boyfriends used to is unsettling. It's almost like I want to be hit again. Not because it turns me on, but it feels like, that's what I deserve.
Like, I have some kind of uxor-toxoplasmosis that uses abusive guys as it's host to lure girls in and turn off their sense of danger, like how cat toxoplasmodium lures mice and negates their sense of danger.
You are the end result of a “would you push the button” prompt where the prompt was “you have unlimited godlike powers but you appear to all and sundry to be an impetuous child” – Zero, 2022
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I think you guys should be nicer to Kexruct.
I do, however, believe that that last "Well there's your problem" was actually pretty funny.
And now, I shall take a break of a few weeks.
Should we swap? :)
Eventually I snapped out of this when I realized I genuinely find the prospect of living as a man for the rest of my life to be cripplingly depressing, and figured that's a good enough reason to go ahead with transitioning either way.
Why am I saying this...?
prospect of living as a man for the rest of my life to be cripplingly
depressing"
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I don't think I'll ever stop fantasizing about a magic-fairy-pixie showing up and replacing my attachments.
Also, I see "trans" as being a sort of gender in itself. Not particularly sure why, but I can't call myself male *or* female - I'm "other".
"Wish you were, or think that you should be? I wonder if there is an
important difference; perhaps there is? Is gender transition a thing
that you want to do?"
If transitioning could be more than just cosmetic - a 100% change - I would take the opportunity immediately. Otherwise, I'm kind of on the fence about it. Until then, I'll have to make do with being every bit as camp as I've always been, and wear bracelets under my sleeve when I can get away with it.
You are also welcome to call me "Empress", "Her highness", or "Matriarch".
Also, this is post number "1337".
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Yet the fact that she doesn't hit me like my old boyfriends used to is unsettling. It's almost like I want to be hit again. Not because it turns me on, but it feels like, that's what I deserve.
Like, I have some kind of uxor-toxoplasmosis that uses abusive guys as it's host to lure girls in and turn off their sense of danger, like how cat toxoplasmodium lures mice and negates their sense of danger.
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