I don't think it was your thing. I imagine the posts implying an expectation that she should talk about her own sexual kinks/habits had rather more to do with it.
No, it really doesn't. It's far more complicated than either of us has let on, and I'm asking you not to assume. Please.
Respecting the request to keep the specifics private: saying it's complicated, from a moderation perspective anyway, suggests there are circumstances in which it is acceptable to use the website solely to harass and threaten another user. And I think that's a really dangerous precedent to set.
Now, I didn't expect to change anything by posting it, but I do think that information is something someone who has decided to leave because they're feeling unsafe deserves to know.
There are no circumstances in which it is acceptable to use the website to harass and threaten another user. I meant only to indicate that the specifics extended beyond what I had stated and concerned information which, it had been requested, should be kept private.
I am not faulting you for posting about it in that thread.
Nah ppl were kinda getting on her, but it basically went like this: Person A) Brings up their fetish, Person B) Random response to the fetish, Lola saying how she didnt like the fetish in question. Rinse and repeat several times and then ppl did start to jump her. I was just ignoring it all myself, but i dunno. Guess like some of the others, she had to expect she might see some things in that thread she wasn't gonna like but then again it should be ok for her to express her opinions on things as much as anyone else so i dunno,
One thing is for sure, no one shoulda been going after her and harrassing her via pm and such like i heard was happening, but it mighta just been easier for everyone had she just not kept going into that one particular thread if it really bothered her so much.
Lol, guess I am just rambling now. I do not like controversial stuff like that anyways as i tend to want to avoid troubles, but that was my take on how it went down.
Yeah. Maybe someone a lot more articulate like whale will be able to sum it up better lol. I'm horrible at story telling and always forget stuff and leave things out.
Nah, she wasn't harassed over PMs, but after she expressed her discomfort a former troper she did not disclose chatted with her a bit over PMs and convinced her to leave on account of the disreputable nature of the site.
By which I mean "You shouldn't hang with these sickos."
Ahhh thanks for the clarification. See, I knew I messed it up a bit at least. But I do not think most of us who were posting there at the time are sickos, but she certainly is entitled to her opinion.
Anyway, she is definitely entitled to her opinion. She is under no obligation to agree with anything she hears, nor to hang out with people she considers weird.
I am just worried that the site will use it as an acuse to say "See, these creeeeepy, horrrriiible people are driving away decent tropers, let's normalize site even more!"
I don't think it's so much that as much as certain people who found TVT not only creepy, but an actual threat to their safety. You know, despite being a site where very few of the populace have the means or the resources to stalk people to that extent, and where most of the people who were that creepy on the forums had long since been banned.
I did not recall anyone talking about a rape fettish or anything like that. Maybe it had been discussed in the past, but not that I saw during that time frame.
Please don't bring the other mods into this, and please respect Aon's request and don't assume things about people and incidents you know nothing about.
I haven't assumed anything Mr G. I just asked a question based on what I read
I did not recall anyone talking about a rape fettish or anything like that. Maybe it had been discussed in the past, but not that I saw during that time frame.
That was in response to I still don't buy the "almost every troper is a pedophile or rape apologist" argument.
Because outside of Fetishes and Tongpu (now that guy definitely has issues) I don't remember much that could be seen as "rape apologism"
Is there any conceivable way he could somehow just not know?
I'm half-thinking of using my sockpuppet to post but that'd be a poor idea on several levels. Not to mention no one'd listen, so there's not much of a point.
i get so angry sometimes i just punch plankton --Klinotaxis
"Is there any conceivable way he could somehow just not know?"
Not knowing what goes on for moderators only, I suppose it's possible, or that the posts and PMs where sufficiently passive aggressive enough that he didn't notice.
Though the later seems rather far-fetched given the sheer volume of posts...
I'm just confused, honestly. There was a time when he would've been foaming at the mouth to know this kind of thing went un-dealt with.
Well, apparently and according to him, nothing was undealt with.
I personally lack the self-discipline for that kind of thing (I also left for different reasons, but that's not the point).
I admit a lot of it hinges on me deciding to not undo it at some point further down the line, but I feel that getting banned won't help matters. And I just wouldn't feel comfortable at all.
Really? Really. That...I don't know. I mean, I could give you a name and a month, and you could put the name in the "see user's posts" box and ctrl-f for the month, and you'd see exactly what I'm talking about. The worst of it happened in private messages, but it started out in public. The point is, this isn't exactly a thing you can plausibly deny happened.
Which reminds me. Fourier, just in case it didn't come across in PMs: everything else aside, it is seriously awesome that you owned up to your mistakes the way you did.
One of the problems, I see, is that in addition Bobby is the only one who acts like a sort of PR team or something - that is, willing to explain to the ordinary troper exactly what is going on. His honesty is also admirable.
I feel the need to point out here, that in my case at least, PMs were disabled for me until I went onto a sockpuppet account and personally asked Madrugada to reopen them.
You are the end result of a “would you push the button” prompt where the prompt was “you have unlimited godlike powers but you appear to all and sundry to be an impetuous child” – Zero, 2022
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I am not faulting you for posting about it in that thread.
Did people not let her be?
I dunno. She seemed to mostly keep to herself, but I haven't been there in over a month. So I probably wouldn't know.
One thing is for sure, no one shoulda been going after her and harrassing her via pm and such like i heard was happening, but it mighta just been easier for everyone had she just not kept going into that one particular thread if it really bothered her so much.
Lol, guess I am just rambling now. I do not like controversial stuff like that anyways as i tend to want to avoid troubles, but that was my take on how it went down.
Well that's....
yeah. :|
By which I mean "You shouldn't hang with these sickos."
Whoever confuses fetish talk with reality needs reality check.
I am just worried that the site will use it as an acuse to say "See, these creeeeepy, horrrriiible people are driving away decent tropers, let's normalize site even more!"
that. Maybe it had been discussed in the past, but not that I saw during
that time frame.
That was in response to
I still don't buy the "almost every troper is a pedophile or rape apologist" argument.
Because outside of Fetishes and Tongpu (now that guy definitely has issues) I don't remember much that could be seen as "rape apologism"
I kinda wanna kick him in the balls.
Also: The irony of his being a total dick is simply too great.
Is there any conceivable way he could somehow just not know?
I'm half-thinking of using my sockpuppet to post but that'd be a poor idea on several levels. Not to mention no one'd listen, so there's not much of a point.
i get so angry sometimes i just punch plankton --Klinotaxis
Just get yourself banned. Worked fine for me and Squiddle.
As for Eddie's statement. No comment, it speaks for itself, none are necessary.
I'm just confused, honestly. There was a time when he would've been foaming at the mouth to know this kind of thing went un-dealt with.
Whatever works for you.
I personally lack the self-discipline for that kind of thing (I also left for different reasons, but that's not the point).
What that guy^ said.
At least here we have kind and responsible moderators.
I feel the need to point out here, that in my case at least, PMs were disabled for me until I went onto a sockpuppet account and personally asked Madrugada to reopen them.