In the "how much soap will your parents make you wash your mouth with" sense, I always considered fuck and shit to be the highest tier. But bitch is definitely a gendered insult, so now that you put it like that I'd say it's way worse in terms of things that are normalized when they shouldn't be.
It depends on how it's being used. It's explicitly comparing the subject to a female dog, which can and often does have sexist connotations, particularly when "bitches" is used to refer to a group of women or to women in general, but it can also be used to compare behaviour more directly—thus, "bitchy" and "bitching" for behaviour that stereotypically resembles an ill-tempered female dog, and so forth—which is less of a categorical thing and more of a character criticism.
In the "how much soap will your parents make you wash your mouth with" sense, I always considered fuck and shit to be the highest tier. But bitch is definitely a gendered insult, so now that you put it like that I'd say it's way worse in terms of things that are normalized when they shouldn't be.
There are far worse gendered slurs normalised to differing degrees, at least to me; curiously, "bitch" has been used in a jocular sense without the explicit gendered component for a surprisingly long time, which I don't think something like "twat" has.
I do, but I'm pretty sure nobody really cares about my opinion on curse words, haha. Given that I don't like any of them, I think that's pretty understandable.
^^ The P you speak of was originally used as an insult not in reference to the euphemism for female parts, but to suggest the same thing as calling someone "'fraidy-cat." Just so you know.
And I'm really sorry you had to go through that, Roz...
I almost got in trouble when I said it so as to ask my parents what it meant, because it wasn't in the dictionary.
Middle school was... terrible. Let's leave it at that. That's part of why Tv Tropes, and the people I met there, the friends I made, mean so much to me.
Middle school is more psychologically traumatic on the whole because it's this whole mass of kids at the worst part of puberty crammed into a single building and forced to interact for educational purposes. Walmart is just K-Mart but less so.
I'm eternally glad I was homeschooled during middle school. People like to shit on homeschooling and the US provides no shortage of arguments why, but when it works it really works.
It's below the one that starts with P in terms of being offensive in a gendered way, but above the one that starts with P in terms of being mean.
B and P are both less bad in both ways than the one that starts with C, which I got called in middle school because my last name started with C.
it took me a while to figure out what "P" stood for
at first i thought it was the male sexual organ's actual name, then i was like, wait, that's not even an actually bad word, just one that's socially awkward to mention
then i thought it was urine, then i was confused as to why it's gendered
The worst of my bullying came more during late elementary school, though middle school started off pretty bad too.
Honestly I was effectively a social pariah from fourth to seventh grade because my classmates thought I was "gay" (even though they were obviously saying so without understanding what that actually meant, in retrospect) and my lack of understanding of social cues made me an easy target.
Things got better after I'd found myself some friends and did the talent show in the sixth grade, however, and while I wasn't a huge fan of high school as far as the workload was concerned I wasn't nearly as much of a misfit, mostly because I kept myself invested in the social circles where I was well liked, and by then most people had that crap out of their system anyway.
As a rule of thumb: imagine applying the insult to a man, then imagine applying it to a woman. If the implications are different then yes, it's sexist.
In this instance, yes, when used insultingly. Applying it to a man has connotations of weakness, applying it to a woman has connotations of malice.
The reverse of that happened to me between 9th and 10th grades...I went from an alt-ed school in central Virginia to regular high school in the DC suburbs. I'm still not sure how I coped.
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It's the name of a female dog, so I automatically think of a female dog whenever someone says "bitch".
Assassin poems, Poems that shoot
guns. Poems that wrestle cops into alleys
and take their weapons leaving them dead
that riff
B and P are both less bad in both ways than the one that starts with C, which I got called in middle school because my last name started with C.
Assassin poems, Poems that shoot
guns. Poems that wrestle cops into alleys
and take their weapons leaving them dead
And I'm really sorry you had to go through that, Roz...
*hugs?*
Assassin poems, Poems that shoot
guns. Poems that wrestle cops into alleys
and take their weapons leaving them dead
I almost got in trouble when I said it so as to ask my parents what it meant, because it wasn't in the dictionary.
Middle school was... terrible. Let's leave it at that. That's part of why Tv Tropes, and the people I met there, the friends I made, mean so much to me.
at first i thought it was the male sexual organ's actual name, then i was like, wait, that's not even an actually bad word, just one that's socially awkward to mention
then i thought it was urine, then i was confused as to why it's gendered
Honestly I was effectively a social pariah from fourth to seventh grade because my classmates thought I was "gay" (even though they were obviously saying so without understanding what that actually meant, in retrospect) and my lack of understanding of social cues made me an easy target.
Things got better after I'd found myself some friends and did the talent show in the sixth grade, however, and while I wasn't a huge fan of high school as far as the workload was concerned I wasn't nearly as much of a misfit, mostly because I kept myself invested in the social circles where I was well liked, and by then most people had that crap out of their system anyway.
In this instance, yes, when used insultingly. Applying it to a man has connotations of weakness, applying it to a woman has connotations of malice.